Be Strong For What?

I've been hearing people express the need to be strong for their friends and the people around them. I've also heard people who are experiencing the loss of a loved one needing to be strong for their children, siblings, or needing to be strong to fulfill a certain role. However, I've been wondering... what do they need to be STRONG for?

When a variation of the words, "be STRONG," is used, there is so much being said and internalized. Sometimes what's heard is, "I can't let them think that I sit here crying all the ti

me." "My feelings don't matter right now." "Their problems are more serious than mine." Saying "be STRONG" can sometimes send the wrong message. It can be dismissive of one's emotions while also placing responsibility for someone else's process unto them. May I offer a different perspective? What if you just BE? What if you just BE sad or angry or worried or frustrated and show those around you "I'm hurting too" and this is how I'm practicing (or finding) healthy ways of coping? What if you just BE together? What if your children see a mother who's in touch with her emotions and they grow up with healthy emotional intelligence? What if your friends (that are also going through) see that even she goes through and they reveal the space they've been holding just for YOU all this time?

Again, be STRONG for what? What if you just BE?